what fun is for

by Bernie DeKoven on June 29, 2012

I have a friend. A real friend. I’ve never met her, except on Facebook, where I’ve truly, deeply met her. Her current Facebook name is PinkNinya Yammer-blastLil. She writes a blog. It’s called Natplays. She shared a post with me in which she describes being at a play park with her son. And I liked it so much, was so touched by the depth of her sense of fun that I decided the best thing I could do with it is share it with you. So I could think about it again. With you.

She writes:

My youngest son is whooping laps around the place, so intensely excited that he literally needs to run off a little of his vigor before he can make a choice about where to begin playing.  I admire his zeal.  I admire my zeal.  I am hoping to make the rank of “Captain” today in laser tag.  It’s an arbitrary and fun-feeling natural consequence of a truer goal: to lose myself in the play, to become so immersed in the laser tag frenzy, that I drop all the way in, together, with my playmates, all of us loosening our individual awarenesses of our Me’s as we zoom into a massive, playing We, following the laser, racing into the dark, shivering into the music, laughing in the chase, the surprise, the whee whee whee of a full tilt aliveness.

I repeat:

“to lose myself in the play, to become so immersed in the laser tag frenzy, that I drop all the way in, together, with my playmates, all of us loosening our individual awarenesses of our Me’s as we zoom into a massive, playing We, following the laser, racing into the dark, shivering into the music, laughing in the chase, the surprise, the whee whee whee of a full tilt aliveness”

…defining what fun is for, lest we forget.


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{ 3 comments }

Lily June 29, 2012 at 2:16 pm

:) Whoever invented lasertag was brilliant! My daughter got to play once on a band field trip. Her band teacher wrote on the itinerary “students will go to [laser tag place] and merrily dodge menacing beams of light”. He had an eye for fun too I think.

Wishing you a day of “full tilt aliveness”.

Love and laughter,
Lily

Natalie Kinsey June 29, 2012 at 4:28 pm

“merrily dodge menacing beams of light” I love it! How perfectly stated. There’s enough “menace” or a sense of something you might want to move away from, to get you excited and, well, moving away from it, but not so much menace as in paintball, where it just really hurts, and hurts enough that it interrupts the merriment.

I like that careful balance. It’s strange to come upon it so easily. For about the price of a good cup of coffee you can have a completely immersed experience of shared joy.

I’m becoming something of a connoisseur of these inviting spaces. It’s the most fun I’ve ever had. I feel like a play scientist.

Bernie DeKoven June 29, 2012 at 4:35 pm

perhaps in fact you are a play scientist. a conceptual toast to many merry experiments!

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