my kind of fun

by Bernie DeKoven on August 13, 2012

As you know from perusing my extended (perhaps over-extended) exploration of the kinds of fun, this site, as well as I, are not here to talk about just any old kind of fun. In fact, I’d go further, and say, quite narrowly, that we are particularly interested in just one kind of fun – the kind of fun that we experience when we are part of a well-played game.

That kind of fun is, of course, not restricted to games. We can experience it when we are dancing, or making love, or playing with children or pets, even. This is probably what makes it so powerful, and so vivid, when it happens in a sport, where the only stated objective is to win. Where the only tangible reward comes from winning. And still we manage to create moments of profound, often mystical harmony, spontaneity, shared excellence.

As you read these many posts, and you find me talking about things like fun coaching, it’s the well-played game kind of fun I’m teaching and sharing and pointing to. When I write about the fun connections between play, laughter, health and happiness, it’s the connection to the experience of playing well together that I’m describing. Or the playful path, this is the kind of play. Even when I write about how fun is easy, this, again, is the fun of the well-played-game kind.

This kind of fun, as notable of an achievement as it is in sports, is just as notable, but even more achievable in games – especially in my kind of games – the playful games whose sole purpose is to keep you in play together. Because in that laughing together we are sharing the wonder of the fun we create, the love we manifest, the mind-body-soul-deep wellness we share, the momentary lowering of the divisions that separate us.


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Lily August 13, 2012 at 12:36 pm

As a laughter leader, I am glad that you mentioned the purpose of the pointless games being laughter, and “the momentary lowering of the divisions that separate us”. I have often said that when two or more people are laughing together, they are no longer manager and employee, mother and son, doctor and garbage collector, they are simply two people laughing.

Many of our laughter activities are actually pointless games, such as laughter gift laughter, where we pass around a box, saying “Happy Birthday!” or some other gift giving salutation and the receiver opens it up and pretends it is full of laughter, providing the sound effects of course. People can pass to anyone, not just the person next to them. Laughter can be the most non-judgemental way to share time and space, and games can bring laughter to us.

I think my favorite of your pointless games (although there are a lot of them that I love) might be “A What and Another What”. Makes me laugh, just to watch the video. :D http://www.deepfun.com/fun/2010/06/another-what/

Love and laughter,
Lily

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